Best Ways to Build Self Esteem

People with self confidence seem to have it all. People look up to them, they never appear shaken or frightened and they actually inspire confidence in others. But what about people who don’t have a whole lot of self confidence? What are the best ways to build self esteem for those of us who seemed to have missed their share when it was being passed out?

Best Ways to Build Self Esteem

Fake it Till You Make it – Researches have found that acting as if you are self confident is a great way to actually be self confident. It really is a great deal about attitude. Believe in yourself, because no one else will if you don’t.

Surround Yourself with Positive People – It’s the naysayers that bring us down and pick at those cracks in our self confidence. They aren’t happy so they need to make sure everyone else is as miserable as they are. We all have a friend, colleague or family member who likes to poke holes in peoples self esteem. Avoid them if possible, you’ll feel better for it. The more positive you are about your relationships, work and goals, the more success you’ll have.

Stop Kicking Yourself – I know a woman who is trying to lose weight by eating healthier and exercising more. She goes to the gym every day and eats better than she has in decades. She’s making wonderful progress, but the number on the scale isn’t moving as much as she would like and she tends to kick herself for it. She sabotages her success by telling herself that she is unworthy of the success she has had. It’s a horribly cycle to get yourself into and even more difficult to get out of. Give yourself a break.

Write a List – When all else fails, write it down. Write down all that you have accomplished and all that you have failed at. I bet the accomplishment side is much longer than the failure side. Be proud of that. Be even more proud that you probably learned from each an every one of those failures making them a valuable asset.

Get Prepared – While it’s ok to fake it until you make it, it’s also wise to learn all that you can about that which you hope to master. When we know something inside and out we can’t help but be self confident.